You Matter: Loving Yourself Unconditionally

Deep down, we all wish to love ourselves, to spend the necessary time to nurture our minds, bodies, and souls, to connect with our inner child that lies within, that only wants us to be present with him/her, to tune out the “noise” of the external world, and just be. Why is it then that many struggle with the journey of self-love. Why does forgiveness seem challenging at times, especially when we truly want to forgive deep down. How can a simple phrase like “letting go” give you an impression internally that you have to run a marathon of some kind in order to experience its freedom?

I have been blessed to have learned a great deal on my journey over the past several weeks, having had many of my own questions be answered through life lessons and through “digital downloads” from the Divine. I received guidance from my soul to head to London, Ontario during the Memorial Day weekend to see Anita Moorjani speak at her “Letting Go” self-love workshop at Centennial Hall. At first, I wondered why I was being shown to see Anita once again, especially since I had seen her previously just last March at Hay House‘s “I Can Do It” event in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. That answer would be revealed, just like all answers are in life, in divine timing. I had a strong feeling that I needed to not only hear the truth, but experience it firsthand.

You know that you are meant to do something important in your life, you may experience some form of noticeable resistance from your ego. There is no need to panic or be alarmed in any way. This is you stepping outside of your “comfort zone” and into the reality of where you are meant to be. If you are on the beginning of your spiritual path, then you may not clearly understand what I mean by “noticeable resistance from your ego.” If you remember the 80’s cult classic film “Say Anything,” the scene where Lloyd Dobler (played by John Cusack) is trying to get the attention of the girl of his dreams, Diane Court (played by Ione Skye), by awakening her from her slumber. How you ask? By holding his boombox (remember those?) over his head, blaring Peter Gabriel’s “In Your Eyes.” Imagine your presence as Diane. Imagine Lloyd’s boombox with the volume turned up all the way as your ego, trying to distract you from what you are in the currently in the present moment of. Just a little visual to simplify things.

So, yes, I was graciously presented the “noise” from my ego the day before the workshop and the morning of, in various forms: having to “get there” at a certain time, the fear of getting lost, and yes, my personal favorite, clock-watching when I was in the hot tub. Yes, one of the things I hope you learn from reading this blog is that it’s important for you to love all parts of yourself, including your ego, when it “goes John Cusack” on you. Even when you are in a hot tub on a relaxing weekend getaway.

When I arrived at Centennial Hall, I was surprised to see, to my delight, a very quaint and simple set-up for the event, with tables on the floor level of the hall, with seating for around 200 people. I then felt this would be a more intimate setting than that Anita’s keynote speech at the “I Can Do It” event, one that I would be able to resonate even stronger with my soul.

I knew I was not going to be disappointed in any way. How can you when you make an investment in your soul? The beautiful thing about Anita’s work is that she inspires you to feel what she has to say and let it connect with your heart, so that you can speak your truth from a vibrant place of love and gratitude.

Initially, my intention was to pen a blog about my entire weekend in London, but a miracle beyond anything I could put into words began taking form in my life, which I will share with you all very soon (again, when the Universe reveals the time). I was, instead, guided, to take what I learned from my time hearing and seeing in London, combined with the messages from Eckhart Tolle‘s “The Power of Now” (which was placed to me by the Divine at the exact moment it was needed) and my meditations, prayers, and my collections of present moments. And here, on the 7th of July (7.7: no coincidence), I find myself being guided to speak my truth in this form.

What I hope many of you take from reading this blog is that no matter what your five senses tell you, no matter your surroundings, your life situation, your health, or your finances, you CAN love yourself. When you make the decision to say those very words: “I Love Myself,” you single-handedly tell the Universe you are now ready to co-create your transformation. Simultaneously, you find the key to the “prison” you may find yourself in and begin to unlock the door, where your next steps will feel like your first, but filled with more freedom.

There were many times in my own life when I thought I did not matter. I struggled with my own unworthiness for many years, but made a commitment to myself on my self-love journey, knowing that the more I loved myself, the more I was compassionate to myself on all levels, that my worthiness would blossom, like a golden apple off of the tree of abundance. And guess what? That fruit has been and continues to be some of the most delicious “food” I have ever enjoyed and experienced. Your energy, your value is infinite. It’s priceless. That’s just how wonderful you are!

If you have difficulties in making decisions, forgiving yourself/someone else, and/or attracting the right people into your life, along with financial abundance, then you have more good news coming your way! When you take the time to love yourself more, whether it be through being in nature, getting a massage, sitting in silence, or drinking a green juice, the less you have to worry. It becomes easier to make decisions, to forgive yourself and those around you, and to attract the right relationships and money. Speaking openly, it is possible. On all fronts. Everything you see externally is a reflection of how you feel on the inside. The world around you is your mirror. If you believe that something is going to be difficult, then that’s what your experience will be. You are sending a message to the Divine, albeit maybe unconsciously. So, if you are navigating through your path and are not yet experiencing the results you wish to see, do not give up. Stay true to yourself. Stay true to your love. And be gentle on yourself. Remember: You are your best friend, not a doormat. You have a higher intelligence working with you. “Time” is on your side (perfect segway for Rod Stewart’s “Young Turks,” one of my favorite songs to listen to in meditation.

On this journey, you may feel like you are doing dancing between two worlds, one where you speak your truth and live it every day, the other where you want to “fit in.” You may have people in your life that are not yet ready to hear the truth. Several or all of those people may symbolize your paradigms of the past. You might get frustrated, angry, and/or confused, wondering why they don’t understand you and/or why they unconsciously misconstrue self-love as selfishness. Love them for who they are. Understand they are doing the best they can with the knowledge they have. Everything happens exactly the way it’s meant to. Trust in the process and know all of this is normal. The expression “practice makes perfect” rings true here. The more you practice loving yourself, the stronger you will feel: emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Your spiritual tools, your knowledge, and your intuition will all increase, not just for yourself, but for those whom you serve. With that being said, it’s very easy to place your full attention on where you want to be. Be present. Be in the now. You will appreciate life even more by being in each present moment of your path.

Rest in the fact that there’s no need to figure things out anymore. You are meant to do great things. You are beautiful. Give yourself a hug. In fact, give yourself several hugs during the day. One of the most amazing feelings you will ever have in your life is the day when you say to yourself: “There’s nothing wrong with me.” That happened to me in the month of June, where I realized that every part of me is divine and that I no longer need to experience my blessings and life lessons through unconscious pain and suffering. I wish, for you, that present moment is something you freeze in “time” and cherish forever.

The most vivid memory I recall from seeing Anita in London was her interaction with a woman in the audience who had cancer for little over two years. She was asking Anita for some feedback and advice, as her health was not where she wanted to be. Anita’s response to her was so profound: “Stop trying. Let go of working so hard. It’s happening.” When you shift your perspective and realize you don’t have to “do” anything, just be the love that you are, that’s when life reveals your own miracle.

My fellow empowered souls: It is happening for you. It is happening for all of us. Treasure your magnificence. You matter.

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Transmute Your Pain Into Love: Remembering Dziadzia

On the surface, May 2nd will always be an extremely sad day for myself and for everyone within my family. In reality, this day will always be a celebration of the life of John Sajecki, the day where my grandmother reunited with my grandmother for eternity in heaven.

This weekend, I take the time to treasure every memory that comes up today between myself and Dziadzia: Whether it be the time he took me on my 3rd grade field trip to the Arcade & Attica Railroad, the countless times he sewed and hemmed clothes for me growing up, the many holidays and birthdays we spent together that all seem to blend together now, and this memory in particular seen below, one of the last times I spent with my grandfather at his nursing home before his passing. I am forever grateful to my loving sister Christine for taking this picture of us and delivering it to me shortly after his passing.


I remember having some of the most deep and profound talks regarding life with him during his final months here in the physical realm. It was important to me to let him know not only how much he meant to me and to our entire family, but that he is love and that I truly loved him. There were conversations where very few words were spoken, only a look into each other’s eyes and a holding of hands, which allowed the flow of the Divine to express our appreciation, our gratitude, and our love more so than any words that William Shakespeare, Leo Tolstoy, and/or Ernest Hemingway ever penned collectively.

Dziadzia: I will fulfill the promise that I made to you, the events of which I know will be revealed in divine timing. I am honoring my promise that I made To Babcia as well, which is being revealed with each passing present moment. I am so grateful for our time we had together here, and I know the time will come where all of us will be reunited in paradise. But it is important for me to experience more of the paradise right here first. I am starting to truly feel comfortable in my own skin. I am beginning to see how important self-love is. I feel, in my heart, that I am becoming more grounded, which is now allowing me to help, inspire, and serve with authenticity and energy that is even more pure. Yes, there are lessons I am learning, which are essential to my soul’s growth, but I am also seeing and feeling how I can smile and be happy during this transformation. It goes back to where you and I spent the most time together: when I was a child. Reconnecting with my inner child is helping me realize how beautiful I am, while also allowing me to let each person I come into contact with just how magnificent they are too.

For the longest time, I was trying to “heal.” I was trying to “get rid of my pain.” If you have experienced grief or trauma of any kind, this may have been or currently be the case for you. My dear friend and teacher Jennifer Norton recently taught me that I do not have to wish your pain away, that you do not have to spend the time and energy wanting it to go away in the fashion we know so well. Instead, make a home for your pain. Allow it. Not as a permanent dwelling, of course, but simply as a structure for everything to pass on through. Feel what it is telling you. Let the energies flow. There is no need to chase or force these your feelings away. Just let the old, bound-up energy release from your mind and your body. All of this is simply looking to be accepted, to be acknowledged, and to be honored, so that it can shift and be transmuted into love. Pretty cool lesson during the time leading into a Full Moon, huh?

During the weekend, I will be thinking of both my immediate and extended family, in quiet prayer, during meditation. I hope all of them are finding comfort and peace within their own lives over this past year, while also taking the time to go within to find the treasure of love that they are. I hope my words, spoken through Spirit, bring all of you one step closer on your own journey. Together, we are all climbing on that heavenly spiral staircase. Aren’t we are all just walking each other home anyway? smile emoticon Live. Laugh. Love. ‪#‎Namaste‬

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Planting The Seeds Of Empowerment: I CAN Do It!

One year ago this week, my life changed forever. As I embarked my journey at Soul Luminous Radio at the start of last year, I was still in the “Dark Night.” All of the fear, the guilt, the judgment, and the pain that I stored throughout my entire life was beginning to come out. This, combined with the projection of the anxiety, fear, and guilt that others were projecting onto me made getting through a day extremely cumbersome. Simply put: I had virtually no idea what was happening. On the surface, I might have looked like I was three olives shy of a fruit salad or three McNuggets shy of a Happy Meal. Despite what my five senses were telling me, my soul was guiding me to be in Toronto, Ontario, Canada for the Hay House “I Can Do It” event at the Roy Thompson Hall.

Several months prior, I was given a copy of Anita Moorjani’s “Dying to Be Me” by my dear friend and Intuitive Healer, Jennifer Norton. After reading it, I realized that my path was similar to Anita’s in many ways, mainly in the fact that I was letting fear destroy my life, from the inside out. They say everything happens in divine timing, and I firmly believe I allowed myself to receive Anita’s book for a reason: It was a message from the Universe, one that showed me that I could begin to turn my life around, to choose love instead of fear. In an ironic twist, the Divine would present me the opportunity to interview Anita on Soul Luminous Radio just a few days prior to departing for Toronto. I was given the chance to thank Anita for speaking her truth, sharing her story, and for helping to save my life. Her response, which came from a place of unconditional love was that she would not be leaving Toronto without a hug from me.

The night before I left for Toronto, I did not know whether or not I was going to make it there. The way I was feeling cognitively, emotionally, and physically was quite interesting to say the least. I prayed to my grandmother that evening (who had passed away the previous summer)m asking her if she would be there for me in Toronto. I surrendered the outcome of what would happen that weekend to God and put everything in his hands.

I woke up the next morning still feeling about how I was the night before. I did manage to navigate myself up to Toronto and made it to the beginning of Day I of “I Can Do It” during Cheryl Richardson’s talk. Just about an hour later, Anita went on stage, and strangely enough, I actually began to feel better. Hearing her speak was so much more powerful than simply reading her book. The seeds were being planted in me, which would begin to sprout forth several months later, in that self-love is what would save me. Not any person, place, or thing.

Anita’s wonderful husband, Danny, was cordial enough to facilitate our meeting afterwards. I cannot even put into words how I felt in being able to say “Thank You” to Anita. She might not know to this day how much her words, her love, and sharing her vibrant heart meant to me during this time. Anita gave me the confidence to know that it was OK to be myself, no matter what others thought or felt, and that I should treasure my own magnificence. She looked through whatever “stuff” I was having some difficulties releasing and saw the love that was within me. That hug, that energy exchange of love, was a springboard for what was to unfold for me over the course of the next two days.

I then began noticing and feeling something about the energy in the building. Coincidence? That is a word that is not in my vocabulary. It was nothing like I ever experienced before. The kind of energy you want to scoop up, put inside several jars, and sprinkle when you return home. Energy of love. Energy of compassion. Energy of kindness. Energy of faith. Energy of forgiveness. Being able to see 2,000+ people sway their heads and sing together during Alex Woodard’s “Celebration,” to learn about the courageous, loving boy that is Jesse Lewis (who was tragically killed during the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting), and to hear Robert Holden say the following words: “If someone asks you what is your religion, you say love. If someone asks you your blood time, you say love,” was beautiful sustenance for my mind. It was only fitting that I was in a concert hall taking all of this, because what I was hearing, the truth of life, the power of Spirit, was the music for my heart that was needed for my healing.

Through Doreen Virtue, I was able to learn that angels were truly present in my life, watching EmpoweredByJohnMyselfAndMiraKelleyover me, and that nothing “bad” was going to be happening. Through Dr. Joe Dispenza, I was able to realize that I could successfully re-encode my DNA, and that the pain that my family had endured for generations did not have to go on any longer: I could rewire my brain. My thoughts created my words, which created my reality. Through Mira Kelley, I was able to learn that my soul had gone through some pretty interesting past life experiences, but that everything I was experiencing in my life was all happening all at once. “Time,” as I had known it, does not exist. Whatever gook from those experiences that needed to come out would indeed be released when the time was right.

Through Julie Daniluk, I was able to realize that realize the connection between the high levels of stress and the emotional eating that I experienced in the previous chapter of my life and how that impacted my mind and body. I saw firsthand that the physical issues I had could be and would be overcome. And through Gabby Bernstein, I learned that a higher love does exist, along with Kundalini Yoga. I was not “ready” at that time to fully understand her words and her message, but over time, even that too was revealed by the Universe.

EmpoweredbyJohnMyselfAndJulieDanilukPrior to departing Toronto, I passed by a church when I was walking outside of the Roy Thompson Hall. My friend at the time, who was accompanying me for the weekend, said something to the effect of “Hey John, look, there’s a church.” Now in the middle of a busy metropolis like Toronto, you would not expect to see a church, let alone if you are just walking outside for a few minutes. I looked up at the church to see it’s name: St. Andrews. Rewind back to the night before I left for Toronto, where I asked my grandmother to watch over me and be with me. The name of the church here in the Buffalo area (in Sloan, New York), where my grandmother and grandfather worshiped together for many years and where they celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary was also called St. Andrews. Shortly after seeing that, I repeatedly heard in the back of my mind the words “Let Go,” which I know was my grandmother’s way of telling me to let go of how everything was going to turn out, to let go of the pain I was holding onto, and to let go of the feeling of needing to be loved by someone else for my own happiness. I believe that the only time you look back is to see how far you have come, and looking back one year later, Babcia (Polish for “grandmother”) was there for me, just as she still is now, but her message of love to me was something I was meant to hear at the time. Some limiting beliefs, emotions, people, and things from the past had to be released first before I was able to fully comprehend that her message from Heaven, but in the end, everything happens the way it’s meant to.

I came back from Toronto, knowing that I wanted to help and inspire people. Initially, I felt I wanted to work for a charity or a non-for-profit organization in Buffalo. Nearly 20+ resumes, inquiries, and toes in the water later, no response. On the surface, it looked like I was being “rejected.” I began, over time, to process this differently, thanks to a personal message that New York Times best-selling author Jack Canfield shared with me on Soul Luminous Radio: “Rejection is a myth that only exists in our heads.” I knew the Divine had something better in mind for me. Over the coming weeks and months, it was shown to me that through my skill sets of publicity, social media, networking, and consulting (which I was blessed to begin learning through my 12 years at Monday Night Mayhem), that I would be helping, inspiring, and serving others. Out of this weekend in Toronto and through the divine guidance from my grandmother, Empowered by John was born.

Throughout the weekend, I was introduced to several empowered souls along the way, people who would play instrumental parts in my life over the next year to this present moment. Some relationships were in person, some were from a distance, but they all presented me with opportunities for growth, which in turn allowed me to release and purge what was not serving my highest and greatest good. Some of those people are no longer in my life in the way that they were, which had me puzzled for some time. Take heed: There are two important things to learn from this: (1.) If someone is meant to meant to be in your life again, they’ll catch up and it will clearly be revealed by the Universe AND (2.) The life lesson you were meant to learn is complete between you and that other person. Be grateful for their presence, what they taught you. Wish them peace and love on their journey.

I am forever grateful for the Divine placing the weekend of March 15-16th, 2014 into my life. Those two days in Toronto strengthened me in ways I never thought possible. I got a glimpse into my future. I saw that I would be empowering others on their paths, but that, when the time was right, I also would be penning my story and would speak my truth, share my love, and inspire others on a stage in front of thousands of people.

Much has changed over the past 365 days. I am not the same person that I was back then. Now, I am the strongest I have ever been. I can not send unconditional love, forgiveness, and hugs to myself, knowing that I consciously made the decision to not let my candle be extinguished and to not let my music die inside of me (Thanks Serena Dyer).

So what does the “future” hold? Only my soul, God, and the Universe knows. Instead, I now remain committed to be in the present moment as often as possible, listen to my heart, continue to put in the energy and effort in my service to others, while also loving myself along this path.

From my heart, I am very thankful for all of you who have been placed on my journey since one year ago today. And yes, I am eternally grateful to those of those of you who have moved on from my life, as you who played the important parts you did very well. All of you have become a part of the tapestry that is my life here on Earth School. The next empowering chapter begins…and I embrace its awesomeness, its beauty, and its sunshine. Hugs and YAY’s to each and every one of you.



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